How to Attract the Right Love Without Fear of Opening Up Again

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How many times have you asked yourself: “Why do I attract relationships that hurt me?” or “Why am I afraid to open up, even when I want to love?” These questions echo in the heart of those who have experienced unbalanced relationships and still carry unhealed emotional fragments. But know this: fear is not weakness. It is a reflection of the soul still searching for safety before opening again.

This article is an invitation to move through fear with awareness, healing, and reconnection with your emotional truth. Because attracting the right love is, above all, a journey inward.

Why We Attract Unbalanced Love When We Are Fragmented

We attract what we vibrate. When we are emotionally fragmented, our relationships mirror our wounds. Lovers who disappear, reject us, demand too much, or are emotionally unavailable often repeat what we experienced in childhood or past lives.

Soul fragments trapped in old wounds create a vibrational frequency that attracts equally fragmented people. That’s why so many women say: “I attract broken people.” What’s broken outside is reflecting a call for healing within.

The Role of Self-Surrender Before Surrendering to Another

You cannot truly surrender to another without first surrendering to yourself. Self-surrender is the act of embracing who you are — the parts you love and those you still judge.

To surrender to yourself means:

• Acknowledging your fears and wounds with compassion
• Emotionally caring for yourself the way you wish to be cared for
• Choosing yourself every day
• Making space to feel without rush or guilt

Before opening your heart to new love, you must open it to yourself. The right love arrives when you become a safe place for your own soul.

How to Protect Your Emotional Energy and Break Old Energetic Bonds

Relationships leave energetic marks. Even after they end physically, the bonds remain until they are consciously released. These cords can drain your vitality, influence your emotions, and block you from new experiences.

Signs you’re still energetically attached to someone:

• Constant thoughts about the person, even when unintentional
• Emotions that don’t feel like your own
• Recurring dreams about them
• Feeling as though no one else can “enter” your emotional space

Techniques to break these bonds:

• Energetic cutting ritual using symbolic scissors
• Herbal bath for emotional release (rue, rosemary, and lavender)
• Release affirmation: “I close this cycle with love and free my energy for what’s new.”

Ritual for Reconnecting With Healthy Love

1. Light a white candle in a calm space
2. Place your hand on your heart and breathe deeply
3. Visualize yourself smiling, loved, whole
4. Say out loud:
   • “I am a temple of conscious love.”
   • “I attract what honors my soul.”
   • “I am ready to be loved with lightness and truth.”
5. Finally, write a letter to the love you want to experience. You don’t need to send it — just feel it.

Practical Spirituality in Love

Practical spirituality is the kind you live daily — in ordinary moments and in your emotional relationships. It teaches you to love with awareness, without losing your essence.

Incorporate small daily rituals:

• Meditation to open the heart
• Intuitive writing to clear emotions
• Aromatherapy with rose and ylang-ylang oils
• Prayer not for a specific person, but for a relationship aligned with your healing

Conclusion: The Right Love Comes When You Return to Yourself

Attracting the right love is a frequency. And it begins with you. When you heal your wounds, reconnect with your truth, and protect your energy, you become a magnetic field for healthy, conscious love.

At Click Tua Luz, you’ll find rituals, tools, and the Portal Click Tua Luz, a spiritual mini-app created to support your emotional healing, inner reconnection, and readiness to receive conscious love.

Pamella Gannum walks with you on this journey back to your heart.